Over this Thanksgiving break, I wasn’t able to go home to Memphis, so I visited my best friend and her family in Alexandria, Va. Although it wasn’t anything like being home for Thanksgiving, there was a sort of re-grounding that I experienced through getting away from Winston-Salem and spending time with my friend who knows me better than I know myself, and who has loved me through my best times as well as my worst. Through spending time with her and her family, I was reminded of who I was amidst the chaos of grad school and spiritual discernment—and I felt grounded again.
I recently had a conversation with one of my dear friends about soulmates, and whether there was just one or multiple for each of us, if they even exist at all. After thinking about it for a minute, I came to the conclusion that we do indeed have soulmates—many soulmates—but not in the traditional romantic sense of the term. For me, my soulmates have been my closest and truest friends—people who know me, love me, and are just naturally in sync with me. I’ve had many soulmates at different stages of my life. In my experience, these soulmates have been similar to “checkpoints” along the way to remind me of who I am, why I am where I am, and most importantly, whose I am. Abigail, my friend that I visited in Alexandria, is most certainly one of these people.
Whether or not you believe in soulmates, there are people in our lives who truly know us and love us in the deepest, most transcendent sense. They ground us, both in where we are in life and in reminding us that we belong to the One who carries us each day—and so we can rest. These people may be family members, teachers, mentors, or friends that you may even consider to be family. But whoever these people are, it’s so important to return to them, so that you remember where you are rooted. F. Scott Fitzgerald writes, “It’s a funny thing coming home. Nothing changes, everything looks the same, feels the same, even smells the same. You realize what’s changed is you.” So in the midst of confusing, difficult, overwhelming, or frustrating times, return home to your soulmates—wherever and whoever they may be—and allow yourself to be grounded again.